What STABILIZING knowledge have we learned

We've learned...

    Dude something got in the way, you gotta let go (if needed)

    You are already recovering keep at it (if needed)

    Don't quit your job!

    And enjoy!

    (and keep your happy switch on)

After letting go (if needed), after recovering (if needed), doing your job and enjoying: you should be at a stable plateau. This post is to tell you to stay stable. And if some issue comes up, to compartmentalize it and deal with it without letting it challenge your stability. Let's not "bother sacred mental spaces" as I put it before. Let's treat these issues as puzzle apps on your phone, but not the whole OS. Let's treat these issues as tracks that are playing on your headphones, but not affecting the music player itself.

Challenges will arise! You may get in a small accident and require surgery, you may get snubbed from a promotion at work, or you may lose a friend because of a misunderstanding. In either scenario you will have to address the essentials of your stability (you may define them differently). You will have to address work, and staying social. And regular exercise if possible. You will have to meet such challenges with zeal, all while staying stable.

We are talking about keeping that mental fortitude. Even if you have to wake up each morning going "I got this, work, fun, other stuff". That other stuff will be dealt with without affecting you. The other stuff, which may ask too much, will tire. Unless you willingly back away, the other stuff will cave and you will persevere.

You, on the plateau of stability, is like you, on a pillar of exceptionalism. Sometimes if you just get through life with stability, that itself is commendable. The pillars of exceptionalism (previously discussed) may take a backseat entirely if needed (but let's hope not for too long 😃)  

Take it easy now!

We invite a BETTER perfect

Bam. Crash. Die. You faced the end of your relationship. It is so painful, loverboy, or girl. But I understand. As do many. Many have faced such tragedy. Read "What got in the way" for closure and making sure your happy switch is on. Read "...you got this, you can recover!" to recover in strides.

All that is wonderful — you are recovering in strides, but what is our overall goal here — complete satisfaction (it is possible) of course. As you are recovering in strides, you will still have thoughts about your past relationship. If your relationship was any good you will think something along the lines of "man, that was perfect". While it is okay to think that, it is not okay that it slows you down a little. We don't want you to think "man, that was perfect", we want you to think "man, here's to a BETTER perfect, I'm recovering, I'm single, I'm gonna meet someone great". This is a step towards that complete satisfaction.

Having that positivity is great! Here's to a BETTER perfect loverboy, girl! But we need more! If you're like most, you're hitting the gym, you're knuckling down at work, you're staying social/enjoying your pastime. Take note, however, of why do all that, and then do all that with even greater conviction. That's what we need.

Borrowing from my life coaching here, we need you to be exceptional and stand on several pillars. One pillar gives rise to others. Stand on the pillar of health (hitting the gym), the pillar of wealth (knuckling down at work), or the pillar of fun (enjoying your pastime). Stand on one watch the others rise as well. Health translates to youthful energy which brings about great work. Work translates to peace of mind which brings about tranquil pastimes. Pastimes translate to joy which brings about powerful workouts. Before long you will be exceptional, you will attract an exceptional other, and you will start living an exceptional life. Sounds like complete satisfaction to me!

Here's once more to a BETTER perfect! And here's to striving towards it with health, wealth, and fun (or insert your own pillars)!

Lastly, let me tell you about the pillar of service. If you acquire expertise in any field and there is an opportunity to serve, you should go for it! Most likely you will allot fewer hours to your pastime! That's it!